For a long time you couldn't find any post from me on the blog. I also distanced myself a little from Instagram & Facebook. Why? I would like to tell you that with this blog entry.
In November last year I had an operation and my expectations for the time after the operation were great, very great, too large! I have planned a lot and above all I was expecting a time when I am simply happier and I was hoping for more self-confidence. I was also looking forward to the first summer! Finally going to the lake with friends, no longer being ashamed of your legs and much more ... Unfortunately, the time after the operation turned out a little different.
It all started a few weeks after my liposuction. This took place in November and was not a good star from the start. A week before the actual liposuction appointment in October, I had severe otitis media and sinus infections. For me this means 10 days of antibiotics and the liposuction had to be postponed by four weeks. The internal frustration was quite big, because the anticipation of the new legs was also.
The new surgery appointment took place in November 2016. Fortunately, nothing got in the way. However, I wasn't really lucky during the operation either and my anesthesia didn't work as expected. So, unfortunately, the entire liposuction was painful. Nobody knows why that was. The doctors tried very hard and were very patient with me. Still, I hate to think back to it.
Time after the operation
The first week I didn't notice much change and I was really frustrated. The expectations were very high, which resulted from various Instagram accounts. Here you can read 99,9% only positive, sometimes “what a miracle” such a liposuction has caused. That was the first mistake! You study all possible testimonials before liposuction and automatically expect that exactly the same will happen.
The fact that I could not find any major miracles or changes was of course partly due to the severe swelling of the legs, which were covered with blue, purple and green spots.
In the second to fourth week, a lot happened and I was just happy that the surgery and the pain were worth it. As a result, the motivation was huge to exercise daily (walking) and also to pay attention to a healthy diet.
After about two months, however, I started to feel dissatisfied. Why, why, why ... I'm not sure. I doubted myself for a long time and didn't understand why it was just me. Nowhere on the internet could I read about such a low. But something had triggered the operation in me and I just couldn't assign it. I was missing a bit of satisfaction with myself and my legs. In this phase in particular, I no longer had any motivation to move around every day. At this stage I questioned everything. Sometimes I even had the feeling that I wasn't seeing any change at all. That the legs look exactly as they did before the operation - which of course was bullshit.
The way out of low motivation
At some point it was clear to me that I had to find a personal way for myself so that I could overcome such a low and that I would recognize such a low in time in the future. I think there are many women who also go through such a low. However, not many women may dare to talk about it. Why? The fear of being turned away with the reason "Be glad, you have had an operation and are still complaining" is too great.
During this time I was always able to talk to my family, especially my mother, about everything. She has accompanied me all the way and has always given me courage. Enduring my moods and showing me new ways that I could no longer see at that moment. This time showed me how important it is to have people around you who believe in you and who show you the little positive things in life that are really important in difficult times.
I have attached a few tips that can help you if your motivation is low:
- Don't let Instagram / Facebook influence it too much - maybe refrain from doing so
- Talk to friends / family about worries and fears
- If you go to physiotherapy, ask about experiences with other patients here
- Go out into the fresh air, even if you are "only" going for a walk. This is good for your body and your soul.
- Small steps are better than no steps at all ... so don't get discouraged!
- Leave watches or scuba divers at home while doing sports (pressure to perform)
- Change sports or try new ones
- Take out pressure, such as B. always having to do a certain amount of sport
- Take friends to exercise
- Take your time 1–2 times a week and calmly create a meal plan and hang it on the fridge
- Brings variety to your diet
- Tries to avoid unnecessary "interim purchases" (a little candy is often bought here -> Spickers etc.)
- Do not let yourself be put under pressure by various nutritional programs
- Pay attention to a balanced diet (for example three meals a day and it can also be a piece of chocolate!)
I hope I could give you some tips. It is important, never forget: Every body is different and should not be compared with others. Find your own way and your own inner satisfaction. Instagram and Facebook may all motivate us, but don't let them put too much pressure on you.
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