Hello to all readers,
Today I would like to address a topic that has been buzzing around in my head for a long time:
Bodyshaming, clothing sizes and the number on the scales
Basically it is like this: Each of us compares ourselves (unfortunately far too often) with others in order to fit into any scheme and to feel like everyone else.
But is a size 36 better than a size 46? Is a person worse if he weighs 70 or 90 instead of 100 kilos? Is the M so much more charming than the XL? Are these the real standards for being happy?
I hope you were able to answer my questions specifically with NO.
We make our daily mood dependent on such mundane things as a number on the scales. Does this make sense? Isn't it much better to look in the mirror, label yourself as “test result good” and enjoy the day? I used to get in a really bad mood when I stepped on the scales in the morning. 100 grams more - a disaster. The day was totally ruined. But let's be honest, who can see 100 grams, please? If you don't suddenly gain 10 kilos overnight, hardly anyone will notice. So head out, look in the mirror - you are good as you are.
For me, clothing sizes are the biggest nonsense on earth
I have everything from XS to XXL in my closet. It doesn't make sense to me. Fashion should fit, make you look good and give you more confidence. Then it fits! That is crucial - it is not for nothing that the saying “sit, wobble and have air” - nothing more should be of interest to you when buying clothes. Are you feeling fine? Bombastic? Sexy? Then take it with you, regardless of whether your girlfriend fits in the S - it doesn't matter. For that she definitely has her own problem areas. Everyone has it, just nobody talks about it. The comparison with others makes you dissatisfied, jealous and is not good for your psyche at all. Stop burdening yourself with this. You can see your dissatisfaction. And do we want to be dissatisfied? No! We want to be women with self-confidence and also radiate this!
I summarize briefly:
- The scales - put them under your bed! (Weighing 1-2 times a month is sufficient)
- The size of the clothes - it doesn't matter, the main thing is that we feel great.
Let's assume you take my little tips to heart. You are in a good mood, wear your favorite dress and feel really good. There comes a swipe from a neighbor / friend "Say, you're pretty fat" (just a clumsy example). Suddenly you break in, your favorite dress no longer feels good, your self-confidence has disappeared under the bed ... to where the scales are, which you should perhaps have asked 3 times more. Doubt, sadness and inferiority are spreading. Great mix!
Girls, please don't let this drag you down! There are people who are not good for you. People who try to make others bad just to present themselves better. Stand over it - nobody but us knows what kind of package we are carrying around with us. Either speak to the person directly, explain what is going on and make your point of view clear. Or break up with such people. There's nothing worse than feeling bad about something every day. That `s not worth it. Apart from the fact that nobody has the right to judge others because of their abundance. And I'm not just talking about obese people being discriminated against and bullied. I also speak of the fact that very thin people have to experience this. I think it's really terrible when something like that happens, it can hurt people deeply. So I really want to tell you:
Lives! Let life And when things get tough, put on your pink armor 😉
With these words I say goodbye.