Bodyshaming is on everyone's lips and there is a great movement to work together against the sharp judgments of body shapes. That's a good thing, but have you ever thought of starting with yourself?
I hate my legs
Yes, I don't think mine is particularly beautiful either. Do you change because of this rejection? Hardly likely. Just like my nose, my sagging breasts, my height and everything else that sometimes spoils my day. But I don't have to love my body to feel gratitude for its tireless efforts. A pinch of “Who cares?” Is added.
How often do you stand in front of the mirror and criticize alleged weaknesses in yourself? Do you reject body parts from you, do you even ignore them? The end of bodyshaming should start with yourself, because how do you intend to strengthen others in their self-image if you fail because of yourself?
#NoMoreBodyshaming - especially not from you. Against yourself.
This is not about self-love, because I find that more than questionable. I don't have to find myself super-duper-monkey-piss-horny to find peace. But I very consciously stop shit. I can't say it any other way. It is mental whistle, nonsense, phantasms that cloud your mind and cover it with senseless brakes. You slow yourself down by criticizing things about yourself that cannot or do not have to change so quickly.
Do slimmer legs make you more lovable? Does a smaller nose change your career? Has your partner fallen in love with your beautiful soul and your hearty eyes, or with the firm breasts from before that now have a few more stories to tell?
I have a homework assignment for you
After reading this article, turn to a loved one - partner, girlfriend, child. Ask this person what they love most about you. What is the first thing she notice about you? What is it that makes you in their eyes?
You will have Pippi in your eyes when you hear that never, never, never an answer has something to do with lipedema, legs, illnesses or big noses. Rather, significant compliments will rain down on you with so many touching qualities that you combine in yourself and have perhaps even forgotten.
Let your body have peace
And now bodyshaming is over. You are everything and so much more than a disease, a leg or a nose. You are so wonderful in your way that if you just stop thinking about it, you can outshine it all.
I like you the way you are
Thank you very much for the masterly intimate pictures to my wonderful photographer and friend Michael Kern.