Self love vs. Self acceptance

Self loveAlso Self-love, denotes the all-embracing acceptance of oneself in the form of an unqualified one Love to itself. The term is synonymous, but not complete synonym, with terms like Self acceptance, Self esteem, self care, and self confidence Self worth.

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Yes, self-love is on everyone's lips, but every time I hear it, it makes me wonder. Wikipedia expresses exactly what the shoe probably pinches me. Because “unrestricted love” is so blind and uncritical that I really don't want to put on the shoe at all. Just because it's up to me or inside of me doesn't automatically mean that it should or must stay that way.

Do I really have to love myself? Isn't it enough just to accept me and keep a door open for improvement? How about peace, an armistice, and inner peace as the big goal?

Self-love for the soul -
Fascination for the body

I accept my body, but I love my soul, my character. Well, I don't like some quirks, but then I address these weaknesses and try to improve myself. Knowing and registering them is the right first step.

I don't have to pinch my bacon rolls full of euphoria and hit my ass to live in harmony with myself. I don't want to talk about my excess weight simply because it increases the risk of illness every day.

That doesn't mean that I just accept my or other bodies. I like to see them, admire them for their strength, let them work on me and discover the stories the scars and shapes tell. The diversity is something wonderful and it has to be admired at all times and always accepted.

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Acceptance isn't as piled high as the word "love". For me, acceptance means that I come to terms with the current state as such and can build on it. It is the balance that we should find, not the euphoria, because that needs significantly more energy to be fed and kept upright.

Harmony means rest, relaxation for your mind. Not worrying all the time about whether the others could see that I'm ten pounds more than last year. They don't care, so should I? Not to be more overweight again, but the external impact. For myself I would like to reach a normal weight at some point, that has always been my great wish. I know one day I will achieve this goal and it will be worth it.

Until then, I treat my body with respect, my soul like a treasure and save my euphoria for the people out there who trigger exactly that in me when they tell me:

“You are wonderful just the way you are. Because you are."


Model: Caroline Sprott | HM: Jasmin Fronholt | Photographer: Silvana Thinker | Sponsors: Dr. med. Olaf Deling / Curameum, Medical supply store Gäher, Janarium medical supply store, Medical supply store Binn GmbH

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Author: Caroline Sprott

I'm Caroline, born in 1989 and live in Augsburg. Why did I start the lipedema fashion blog? At the beginning of my diagnosis I was completely helpless before an uncertain future. Now, a few years later, through active participation in self-help groups and a lot of research, I have accumulated a wealth of experience that I would like to make available to other affected persons in one place - without the detour via private groups on Facebook. The fashion component is of course due to my hobby. At the time, I promised myself that I would never be restricted by compression stockings. This attitude gives other patients courage and so Michaela advised me to start a blog.

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  • Dear Caro, thank you very much for your beautiful, touching words. The pictures turned out to be incredibly beautiful. Many thanks for this courage. I can hardly foresee what such a public will entail. Your words and pictures help me again and again to accept my body with my lipedema and to live with it instead of against it. Kind regards, Silke

  • Dear Caro,
    beautifully written and described. I also try to accept my body. Will I succeed? Sometimes more sometimes less good. I have always been critical of my figure and I don't know if I can ever shed that.
    But what do I find fascinating about other people around me? Do I love my man because of his looks? No ... surely I fell in love with him because of his looks. I learned to love his character, his sense of humor and his calm. It doesn't look like it did 30 years ago, but that doesn't matter. The body and soul have experienced a lot during this time and have also received scars as a result…. I love them too. And so I appreciate and love the people who are important to me, with all the rough edges, scars, wrinkles and pounds. These people don't reduce me to my shell. It's good for you and gives you strength. It also helps me to accept myself better, gives me peace of mind, gives me strength.
    Very often…. not always… .. for me it will always remain a process of learning.
    Best regards,
    Kerstin